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How to control your temper and make the most of a bad situation

How to control your temper and make the most of a bad situation

Anger is natural, but it’s seldom useful. Having a meltdown as an adult affects relationships, so it’s best to have some coping mechanisms up your sleeve

Do you get upset trying to deal with your friends, siblings or S.O.? Maybe you turn beet red and scream loud enough for people on the other side of the residence to hear.

You know your actions aren’t cool, and later, you’re likely to feel ashamed of yourself.

Also, if you’re spewing anger at classmates, professors or people you work with, this could hurt your reputation, career possibilities, and income.

If you have a bad temper, you’re not alone. Most individuals can really get hot under the collar. It’s not easy to stay centered and calm while your emotions are boiling. It’s almost impossible not to yell, if you believe your dignity is taking a few bad whacks from someone.

But, as a mature adult, you must find balance. Otherwise, having these meltdowns will affect every relationship in your life.

And, others aren’t likely to trust you with sensitive information, because they know you’ll be likely to over-react.


Keep these tips in mind:

No one should react strongly before digesting information. For example, if your boyfriend tells you he thinks you guys should take a break, try hard not to spew your emotions. Instead, tell him you need time to think about the situation.

Remember that you can always get angry later. For example, if you find out one of your friends has been stealing from their job, plan your reaction. Take time to think about how forceful you need to be. You might need other people to witness what you say.

Some people like to push your buttons. Don’t let them. Absorb what the other person is saying or doing, but don’t allow him or her to trigger a reaction. Self-control takes practice and it will serve you much better than a knee-jerk response.

People are afraid of a calm person. Why? They know you can give believable information to others.

These skills can come in handy in the big, wide world, too, For instance, when you’ve moved out and are living in your own home, and someone harms your property, if you stay relatively calm, they know you can make a good case in court.

“I just went to court with my neighbour over a dangerous dog running loose,” says a nurse we’ll call Beverly.

Beverly worked with her lawyer to force the neighbour to build a strong fence. She took a picture of the dog growling and snapping, a drawing of the fence she felt was adequate to protect her family, and she told the judge she’d pay for the fence.

“I won the case, but I didn’t have to pay for the fence,” says Beverly. “I made good sense, and 99 per cent of the law is just good common sense. Pet freedom does not come before public safety. My calmness helped me focus on presenting my material effectively and quickly, so the judge would listen.”

Moving from anger mode to “action” mode is often necessary to fix a situation. Staying calm helps you figure out what action is needed.

And, staying calm throughout an ordeal might be all you need to do.

A woman we’ll call Kim, recently caught her boyfriend with another woman. “I walked into a restaurant, and there they were,” says Kim. “They were laughing and having a drink. Good thing I didn’t lose my temper. The woman turned out to be his first cousin, Karen, who had not been around in years.

“Karen had made a family history book she was bringing as a gift. Jeez, I’m glad I didn’t act jealous! I’d have felt like a fool.”

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